oldfarang
May 16th, 2015, 05:15
Let me start with saying Goodmorning again and I am not new to the sawatdee. I have been here before but that was so many years ago. It could be 7-8 years I don't remember. Guess my age is catching up to me. I forgot my old handle, sorry. I stopped posting here after my boyfriend and me went back to my home country and had many great years together. Please allow me to tell my story because that is why I am here again, in Thailand and on Sawatdee.
I have been coming to Thailand, mostly Pattaya, for almost 30 years. Yes, I had great times and did many stupid things. I don't regret any of them, even the expensive ones. Many times great times and stupidity go hand in hand here. So for the first 20 years of holidays in Thailand (little Bangkok - old days and after Pattaya - and sometimes some days elsewhere) I was a farang that enjoyed himself to the fullest, 2-3 times a year holidays. I had a great and flexible job and yes I am retired now (70+)
At this time I am in Thailand, with my boyfriends family. They have a nice business in Pattaya and are doing well. But I am getting ahead of myself.
Well after 20 years of being a party farang on holiday, I met him. I will never forget that day, moment (I hope). I was having a coffee in the morning and he and his friend walk into the place. His friend was a salesman for some bar/caf├й stuff and he was just tagging along. I asked what they where selling, so he came sitting with me and explained that his friend was selling and he just was going with him. For me it was love at first site. I was 60 at that time and never happened to me. He's English was great. Turned out he had a decent education (dad was English, but past away 5 years before). Ohh, he was 28 when I met him. Before this story gets too long we really got along and maybe I have been stupid the past 10 years or his love was real. We kept meeting for 2-3 more years on my holidays (2-3 times a year). Never asked for any money while I was away.
So, 7 years ago I popped the question and ask if he would like to come and live with me. Maybe expand his education some more or just work, he's choice. He's answer was so shocking: "Let's go to my home now so you can meet my family". Well 20+ years of experience as a party farang came running back to me of course, but I said ok, since I had not met his family in the 2-3 years we had holidays together. I don't know if it is a standard Thai thing, but the family already knew about me, I found out. That same day they went all out on making me feel as welcome as possible. I had about 3 more weeks of holiday left and everything was just perfect with him and his family.
I know what does an goodlooking 28 (then 31) year old wants with a 60+ old farang. To be honest I still don't know just his words and show of love was enough for me.
I am sure you are all sitting down now, because here comes the sad part, which is why I am back in Thailand at this time.
My sweet perfect boyfriend of almost 10 years past away. I flew his remains 2 weeks ago back to Thailand according to his wishes and his family and I did what was needed. He was hit by a drunk driver back home while coming back from shopping for his family for a coming up holiday to Thailand.
I have 1 more week in Thailand according to my ticket, but I have decided to stay longer maybe a month more. I am also thinking of just spending my last years here in Thailand, since back home there is nobody left really, yes some friends, but they will understand. I need to go home one more time to arrange things, if I make the big decision. My in laws here in Pattaya already offered to take care of me. They are really good people and do not need any of my money, they have enough themselves.
I am not rich, but yes I do have a good pension and savings. I will never spend that much and I have full health care.
I am not sick or anything at the moment, but I am 70 and well age is catching up. What do you older longterm expats think and maybe any suggestions.
Thank you and I hope I did not waste too much time of your day.
I have been coming to Thailand, mostly Pattaya, for almost 30 years. Yes, I had great times and did many stupid things. I don't regret any of them, even the expensive ones. Many times great times and stupidity go hand in hand here. So for the first 20 years of holidays in Thailand (little Bangkok - old days and after Pattaya - and sometimes some days elsewhere) I was a farang that enjoyed himself to the fullest, 2-3 times a year holidays. I had a great and flexible job and yes I am retired now (70+)
At this time I am in Thailand, with my boyfriends family. They have a nice business in Pattaya and are doing well. But I am getting ahead of myself.
Well after 20 years of being a party farang on holiday, I met him. I will never forget that day, moment (I hope). I was having a coffee in the morning and he and his friend walk into the place. His friend was a salesman for some bar/caf├й stuff and he was just tagging along. I asked what they where selling, so he came sitting with me and explained that his friend was selling and he just was going with him. For me it was love at first site. I was 60 at that time and never happened to me. He's English was great. Turned out he had a decent education (dad was English, but past away 5 years before). Ohh, he was 28 when I met him. Before this story gets too long we really got along and maybe I have been stupid the past 10 years or his love was real. We kept meeting for 2-3 more years on my holidays (2-3 times a year). Never asked for any money while I was away.
So, 7 years ago I popped the question and ask if he would like to come and live with me. Maybe expand his education some more or just work, he's choice. He's answer was so shocking: "Let's go to my home now so you can meet my family". Well 20+ years of experience as a party farang came running back to me of course, but I said ok, since I had not met his family in the 2-3 years we had holidays together. I don't know if it is a standard Thai thing, but the family already knew about me, I found out. That same day they went all out on making me feel as welcome as possible. I had about 3 more weeks of holiday left and everything was just perfect with him and his family.
I know what does an goodlooking 28 (then 31) year old wants with a 60+ old farang. To be honest I still don't know just his words and show of love was enough for me.
I am sure you are all sitting down now, because here comes the sad part, which is why I am back in Thailand at this time.
My sweet perfect boyfriend of almost 10 years past away. I flew his remains 2 weeks ago back to Thailand according to his wishes and his family and I did what was needed. He was hit by a drunk driver back home while coming back from shopping for his family for a coming up holiday to Thailand.
I have 1 more week in Thailand according to my ticket, but I have decided to stay longer maybe a month more. I am also thinking of just spending my last years here in Thailand, since back home there is nobody left really, yes some friends, but they will understand. I need to go home one more time to arrange things, if I make the big decision. My in laws here in Pattaya already offered to take care of me. They are really good people and do not need any of my money, they have enough themselves.
I am not rich, but yes I do have a good pension and savings. I will never spend that much and I have full health care.
I am not sick or anything at the moment, but I am 70 and well age is catching up. What do you older longterm expats think and maybe any suggestions.
Thank you and I hope I did not waste too much time of your day.