adquelo
June 12th, 2013, 17:27
ItтАЩs been a while since I was last in Thailand, the last time being 2009. IтАЩve just returned from a trip where I hooked up with a guy but a few different things happened this trip that have left me puzzled and I would welcome any thoughts.
Went to Pattaya for my 40th Birthday and made arrangements, via GayRomeo, to hook up with a massage boy. Agreed a price in advance for him to spend the entire holiday with me. So on the face of it a service and transaction, or тАШrentalтАЩ as some have termed it.
Had a great time with someone who was very attentive and actually wanted to, in his own words тАЬtake care meтАЭ this included shaving my facial hair in the shower so I looked more тАЬmanlyтАЭ, clipping my toenails and skin on the bottom on my feet, (which I refused quite strongly to begin with as I know the feet are seen as the lowest part of the body, but he was adamant he wanted to.)
He got quite upset one time when I wasnтАЩt looking where I was going and walked into an empty street cart, he stood there with his hand on hips, looking very displeased saying тАЬyou need to look after yourselfтАЭ and examining my head for any sign of a scratch. (I put that down to thai vanity and not wanting to be seen with an injured farang!)
Went to the temple with him. Normally I stand on the side-lines and let them do what they need to do while I take pictures. This time he asked me to join him and we lit candles, put my hand on one side of a food bucket and his on another as we gave it to the monk, so we gave it together, knelt in front of said monk and got sprinkled with water (I presume to cleanse me!) and then tied some string around my wrist. That felt very different.
The whole time he was with me, he didnтАЩt ask for anything and was quite adamant I didnтАЩt buy him anything, once again very different from times before.
About 3 days into the trip he said before I left he wanted to give me something to keep me safe and on the last day I got presented with a travelling budda medallion to put around my neck to keep me safe until we meet again, which he apparently had had in his room for a long time.
Went to see his тАЬroomтАЭ which I instantly regretted. A room with plyboard walls, plyboard over the window, a mattress on the floor and a fanтАж.that was it, A communal toilet (hole in the floor) and shower (bucket of cold water) I kept my shock to myself and deep down instantly want to move him. However he seemed content, actually apologising for not sweeping up!
He was quite open with me about his friends, showing me past guyтАЩs pictures on his phone and text messages from his friends, he even asked to me speak to few, which caused great hilarity. He took pictures of us together and sent them to friends, almost like a trophy тАЬlook what I have.тАЭ Even spent one night with all his friends at an open air snooker bar drinking thai whisky, which I have to say was one of the best nights.
There was of course тАЬthe other phoneтАЭ that was a knackered old Nokia which a number of messages came through on, but that stayed firmly hidden.
We became quite close over our time together and one time I went shopping while he went to gym, he was standing in the street looking stressed and worried when I was 5 mins late. (Quite ironic considering Thai timekeeping) He kept saying a couple of days before I left тАЬI not want you to go home you give me good time you have good heartтАЭ with his eyes starting to well up! There were of course tears when I left, but not only from me, from him as well and he seemed genuinely upset, it didnтАЩt seem put on.
On the last day I asked him to give me his bank details and to let me know if he got into trouble. Instantly a slip of paper with it all printed out appeared from his wallet. This made me chuckle!! But to date IтАЩve not been asked for any money. Since I got back we whatsapp message and speak via тАЬLineтАЭ and he has said those immortal words тАЬlove you so muchтАЭ тАЬMiss you so muchтАЭ тАЬI cry when I think about youтАЭ etc etc which I also respond with as I do have genuine feelings for the guy, but have no illusion about his job and what he does. He could just be very good at what he does and pulling at heart strings.
IтАЩm going back in November and this is where I would welcome any thoughts. He has told his mum about me and has asked if I could visit his home town and his family (in Issan) for a couple of days. Which I donтАЩt mind as it would be nice to see rural Thailand. He also suggested about hiring a car, which I am a little unsure of as IтАЩve never driven in Thailand, but I putting that down to "face" and arriving at his family home in a car driven by a westerner! But apparently I am the first white guy his mum has been introduced to. Good thing or not?
I communicated quite well with him and we laughed and joked together which is important. I asked him what he wanted from life and whether he enjoyed his job as a massage boy. He said it gives him money but he doesnтАЩt really enjoy the sex side of things. It was different with me apparently (but heтАЩs bound to say that!) He also said he is 27 and thinks he only has 3 more years left in him. So me being the gullible Brit said OK, we talk about your future in November. I do genuinely want to help him better himself.
So at the end of the day he is a massage boy and does what he has to do. I know that and itтАЩs how he earns his living and send money home. Its early days yet and when push comes to shove IтАЩve only been with him for 2 weeks, but I do get the impression he has genuine feelings for me.
So your thoughts on what I have here? Is it genuine? Anyone had a similar experience?
Went to Pattaya for my 40th Birthday and made arrangements, via GayRomeo, to hook up with a massage boy. Agreed a price in advance for him to spend the entire holiday with me. So on the face of it a service and transaction, or тАШrentalтАЩ as some have termed it.
Had a great time with someone who was very attentive and actually wanted to, in his own words тАЬtake care meтАЭ this included shaving my facial hair in the shower so I looked more тАЬmanlyтАЭ, clipping my toenails and skin on the bottom on my feet, (which I refused quite strongly to begin with as I know the feet are seen as the lowest part of the body, but he was adamant he wanted to.)
He got quite upset one time when I wasnтАЩt looking where I was going and walked into an empty street cart, he stood there with his hand on hips, looking very displeased saying тАЬyou need to look after yourselfтАЭ and examining my head for any sign of a scratch. (I put that down to thai vanity and not wanting to be seen with an injured farang!)
Went to the temple with him. Normally I stand on the side-lines and let them do what they need to do while I take pictures. This time he asked me to join him and we lit candles, put my hand on one side of a food bucket and his on another as we gave it to the monk, so we gave it together, knelt in front of said monk and got sprinkled with water (I presume to cleanse me!) and then tied some string around my wrist. That felt very different.
The whole time he was with me, he didnтАЩt ask for anything and was quite adamant I didnтАЩt buy him anything, once again very different from times before.
About 3 days into the trip he said before I left he wanted to give me something to keep me safe and on the last day I got presented with a travelling budda medallion to put around my neck to keep me safe until we meet again, which he apparently had had in his room for a long time.
Went to see his тАЬroomтАЭ which I instantly regretted. A room with plyboard walls, plyboard over the window, a mattress on the floor and a fanтАж.that was it, A communal toilet (hole in the floor) and shower (bucket of cold water) I kept my shock to myself and deep down instantly want to move him. However he seemed content, actually apologising for not sweeping up!
He was quite open with me about his friends, showing me past guyтАЩs pictures on his phone and text messages from his friends, he even asked to me speak to few, which caused great hilarity. He took pictures of us together and sent them to friends, almost like a trophy тАЬlook what I have.тАЭ Even spent one night with all his friends at an open air snooker bar drinking thai whisky, which I have to say was one of the best nights.
There was of course тАЬthe other phoneтАЭ that was a knackered old Nokia which a number of messages came through on, but that stayed firmly hidden.
We became quite close over our time together and one time I went shopping while he went to gym, he was standing in the street looking stressed and worried when I was 5 mins late. (Quite ironic considering Thai timekeeping) He kept saying a couple of days before I left тАЬI not want you to go home you give me good time you have good heartтАЭ with his eyes starting to well up! There were of course tears when I left, but not only from me, from him as well and he seemed genuinely upset, it didnтАЩt seem put on.
On the last day I asked him to give me his bank details and to let me know if he got into trouble. Instantly a slip of paper with it all printed out appeared from his wallet. This made me chuckle!! But to date IтАЩve not been asked for any money. Since I got back we whatsapp message and speak via тАЬLineтАЭ and he has said those immortal words тАЬlove you so muchтАЭ тАЬMiss you so muchтАЭ тАЬI cry when I think about youтАЭ etc etc which I also respond with as I do have genuine feelings for the guy, but have no illusion about his job and what he does. He could just be very good at what he does and pulling at heart strings.
IтАЩm going back in November and this is where I would welcome any thoughts. He has told his mum about me and has asked if I could visit his home town and his family (in Issan) for a couple of days. Which I donтАЩt mind as it would be nice to see rural Thailand. He also suggested about hiring a car, which I am a little unsure of as IтАЩve never driven in Thailand, but I putting that down to "face" and arriving at his family home in a car driven by a westerner! But apparently I am the first white guy his mum has been introduced to. Good thing or not?
I communicated quite well with him and we laughed and joked together which is important. I asked him what he wanted from life and whether he enjoyed his job as a massage boy. He said it gives him money but he doesnтАЩt really enjoy the sex side of things. It was different with me apparently (but heтАЩs bound to say that!) He also said he is 27 and thinks he only has 3 more years left in him. So me being the gullible Brit said OK, we talk about your future in November. I do genuinely want to help him better himself.
So at the end of the day he is a massage boy and does what he has to do. I know that and itтАЩs how he earns his living and send money home. Its early days yet and when push comes to shove IтАЩve only been with him for 2 weeks, but I do get the impression he has genuine feelings for me.
So your thoughts on what I have here? Is it genuine? Anyone had a similar experience?