vnman
May 1st, 2012, 19:00
Do you think the money you give boys is often out of guilt?
I'm obviously not talking about an offed boy who did his job, but more the situations in which you didn't ask for a boy's attention or company. I often read: "I felt bad but I gave him a few hundred baht and went on my way" or, "I didn't want him to lose face so I gave him some money."
I used to be that guy! Feeling guilty because I was interested in another boy. Hey, boys drop you in a heartbeat when the grass seems greener in the other farangs wallet, so why do we feel guilty? If a boy feels that he can jump of stage when I enter a gogo and comes sit next to me and immediately order a drink...Should I be the one who worries about him losing face?
My friend and I walk into a massage place on Silom rd. no idea what the name is. Anyway, he was a first time visitor and the first guy in the massage place explained him how much it would cost. My friend understood everything and they were off to the races. I waited till he was done and I asked if he was happy. He said that the massage was very good but he had hoped for one of the other guys to come up to him. When i asked him why he didn't say anything, he said "I felt bad for the other guy who approached me first."
Is it me or is this guilt trip something they have mastered till perfection and are taking full advantage of? He, don't get me wrong; you give what you want if it makes you happy or sad. I'm not saying that we shouldn't be generous. But isn't it true that many of us were/are suckered in without even realizing it.
Feeling sorry for the boy because we are indeed a butterfly :redfaced:
disclaimer: I made up those quotes, so if you might have had something similar in your trip report: nothing personal intended.
I'm obviously not talking about an offed boy who did his job, but more the situations in which you didn't ask for a boy's attention or company. I often read: "I felt bad but I gave him a few hundred baht and went on my way" or, "I didn't want him to lose face so I gave him some money."
I used to be that guy! Feeling guilty because I was interested in another boy. Hey, boys drop you in a heartbeat when the grass seems greener in the other farangs wallet, so why do we feel guilty? If a boy feels that he can jump of stage when I enter a gogo and comes sit next to me and immediately order a drink...Should I be the one who worries about him losing face?
My friend and I walk into a massage place on Silom rd. no idea what the name is. Anyway, he was a first time visitor and the first guy in the massage place explained him how much it would cost. My friend understood everything and they were off to the races. I waited till he was done and I asked if he was happy. He said that the massage was very good but he had hoped for one of the other guys to come up to him. When i asked him why he didn't say anything, he said "I felt bad for the other guy who approached me first."
Is it me or is this guilt trip something they have mastered till perfection and are taking full advantage of? He, don't get me wrong; you give what you want if it makes you happy or sad. I'm not saying that we shouldn't be generous. But isn't it true that many of us were/are suckered in without even realizing it.
Feeling sorry for the boy because we are indeed a butterfly :redfaced:
disclaimer: I made up those quotes, so if you might have had something similar in your trip report: nothing personal intended.