Jealousy in BKK

I was in BKK recently for a while and visited the usual haunts including DJ - what a fab place - had loads of offers - but it amazes me to find that other falang specifically in DJ Station and possibly other places also, just "blank" each other. Its as if one is not there, no eye contact for apologies when bumping into falang, no getting out of the way when moving, the list goes on. I don't have a confidence problem or inferiority complex either, and it suits me fine - it would be like getting coal from Newcastle if you heard the expression if I was chatted up by one. I must say though the older generation are generally polite in certain situations, its just these 20-30-40 year olds who have, well sort of nice bodies, but the faces don't match. That's my observation. It's a territory sort of thing. Mind you I can handle it. Some of these falang think they are lovely, but "think" is only what they can do. It all boils down to how many offers you get from the good lookers in my opinion, that are not rent.

Anyone else noticed this sort of thing. Mind you when I was in Burger King next door, this lager lout said something to me - as I was lookin at myself in the mirror - I won't tell what he said, as I won't tell you my reply!! Ended up having a nice chat actually, we had a lot in common.

On another note, went to Screwboy whilst I was there - now, that place has certainly changed - for the better - some of the talent are actually quite masculine, lovely jubbly.

"Jealousy in Bangkok"?

Are you jealous of them, or are they jealous of you?

[rincondog]

Wouldn't " SHALLOW in BKK" be a better title for this post.

I don't know why an old man like you would want to be seen in DJ Station I'm amazed you can make the stairs.

[Michael]

Pants Man strikes again...

[youtube:gktkhpw9]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uAygyFQfN94[/youtube:gktkhpw9]

as I was lookin at myself in the mirror......

Don't hate me because I'm beautiful.............. NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :hello2:

[Impulse]

Yes Ive noticed it.I sat at a chair=at a host bar in Sunee and a young(by sunee standards)farang man already seated there totally ignored my polite hello. What a dick! I wish I knew before hand so I could have ignored him first. Then a young Thai host came out and he was all smiles. :hello2: Loser,we know what was on his mind. I would have loved to slip some exlax in his drink when he wasnt looking. He was ugly as sin as I recall now.I hope he had a miserable time in Thailand.

[latintopxxx]

My dears, when visiting a host or go go bar, one has only one thing on ones mind; problem is if you acknowledge or greet an age/beauty challenged foreigner they quite often take this as a signal that they are free to join your circle, engage in long conversations and generally interfere with your mission which is to have a pleasant time with obliging boys........the truth is not always pleasant but this is merely a defensive technique.

I'm not sure why you think it's jealousy. It's usually a proven technique to avoid the possibility of having to put up with a complete bore, who are thick on the ground in some places.. Ive even been known to try to strike up a conversation myself, which is how I first met George and one or two other characters from SGT. Unfortunately George did turn out to be a humorless bore, which rather proves my point.

I once fell into conversation with a youngish Thai in Tawan as we both admired the meat. He told me he was a film director and that it was the first time anyone other than staff had spoken to him in such a place.

Having said that, I'd not like to shake hands with WhiteDesire.

I'm not sure why you think it's jealousy. It's usually a proven technique to avoid the possibility of having to put up with a complete bore, who are thick on the ground in some places.. Ive even been known to try to strike up a conversation myself, which is how I first met George and one or two other characters from SGT. Unfortunately George did turn out to be a humorless bore, which rather proves my point.

Is that how you met The Colonel?

[Sen Yai]

The phenonemon that WhiteDesire describes is not limited to the bars and clubs, or even to Thailand. In my experience, this is quite common behaviour for expats in many countries - to ignore each other, whilst happily socialising with the locals.

I think that the reasons for this are many and complex. They range from a desire not to gravitate towards and expat clique, but integrate properly in local society, through to wishing that they alone are living this adventurous life style in an exotic land, and perhaps feeling a little jealousy that there are other expats doing the same thing too.

There is of course some truth in the idea about not wishing to get stuck in a conversation with a lonely bore, as described by others above, but that is more of a personal issue, rather than an expat trait.

I guess I am guilty of this practice myself (for reasons of avoiding the expat cliques, rather than the jealousy of others, I hope) and in fact I think I may know Curious from his time in Singapore, although we never spoke. If he is the guy I am thinking of, we are of a similar age, and our paths crossed in Singapore in all the usual haunts, including the gym. I also bumped into him a few times in Bangkok and also Phuket, but he never spoke to me and I never spoke to him. Funny isn't it?

[Impulse]

Well,a proper introduction is in order:Sen yai, may I introduce to you Curious,Curious,this is Sen yai. Dont be shy.

Is that how you met The Colonel?You were the one taking the photographs!

[Beachlover]

Many farang are just there to speak to Thai boys so they are reluctant or shy to mingle or get involved with other farang. Or they may feel self-conscious so they act defensively. It's true some of the younger farang look down on older farang going to the club, which is not nice.

I had a nice conversation with an older farang guy I met a couple of times at DJ... he was good company... really nice guy.

Some of the older farang I see aren't terribly appealing in their appearance... and I don't mean looks. I mean their dress, behaviour and what they say. So I do keep a distance from them... in a nice way.

I hope I don't get mauled for this, but I would suggest, if you're an older farang going clubbing and want to talk to younger guys, it's a good idea to dress smartly (i.e. not old, ragged clothes or tight revealing clothes) and have a friendly (not defensive/aggressive) demeanor. And be a good conversationalist... ask questions, be interesting. I know this might be the wrong thing to say here... but just my honest thoughts.

I enjoyed watching some of the farang having a great time at DJ... they're fun to watch. I was sitting out Soi 2 (DJ) at closing time eating with some Thai boys when these two older European guys came out, still dancing and smiling. They looked like they'd just arrived straight from farangland and were having a great time. One cames up and says, "ok, so what's the next place to go now?"

A Thai boy said, "oh, you go to G.O.D... over there, you see?"

"[claps his hands] Ok! See you there!"... and off they go.

[Impulse]

Beach lover,why would any one give you flack for a truthfull and sincere reply?Your giving good advice for the older ones.

[Smiles]

" ... George did turn out to be a humorless bore, which rather proves my point.... "
... which would be, 'likes attract'?

[TrongpaiExpat]

I think that rude, aggressive and offensive behavior has nothing to do with being an expat or a visitor to Thailand. It's just that there is a certain percentage of the human race that are miserable, rude and offensive.

I think that rude, aggressive and offensive behavior has nothing to do with being an expat or a visitor to Thailand. It's just that there is a certain percentage of the human race that are miserable, rude and offensive.

And a disproportionate number of them can be found in the fleshpots of Pattaya and Bangkok.

[Brad the Impala]

I think that rude, aggressive and offensive behavior has nothing to do with being an expat or a visitor to Thailand. It's just that there is a certain percentage of the human race that are miserable, rude and offensive.

And a disproportionate number of them can be found in the fleshpots of Pattaya and Bangkok.

And posting on this forum?

[quote=TrongpaiExpat]I think that rude, aggressive and offensive behavior has nothing to do with being an expat or a visitor to Thailand. It's just that there is a certain percentage of the human race that are miserable, rude and offensive.

And a disproportionate number of them can be found in the fleshpots of Pattaya and Bangkok.

And posting on this forum?[/quote:1fth6q8j]

Obviously. It is pretty much one and the same group.

And posting on this Forum
Obviously. It is pretty much one and the same group.Beach Bunny: Joined 15 January 2009; posts 1217