Complex Tales

[Aux1010]

I just had a message from a bit in Siem Reap, asking for $50, as he had an accident. He attached pics, which looked pretty bad, and were him. That makes it difficult!

I'd say if you believe and trust him, want to help, and the amount involved won't be a problem for you then send it to him.

I have a general rule to NEVER give money to anyone who I won't see in person at the time (not specifically because I don't want to help, but just too many requests that I deem not really genuine and it's just easier to have a blanket 'sorry, I can't help with that right now').

However, just before Covid started I met a lovely guy in Manila, non-moneyboy who was working hard in a low paying job to look after his grandma and younger siblings. Once Covid hit his job disappeared and their situation became pretty desperate.

I (somewhat reluctantly) broke my rule (only reluctant because I knew if I did it once I'd likely do it again for other guys). But seeing his genuine gratitude and photos of him and his family being able to eat again made me glad I did so. We still keep in touch and he's never asked for money again.

[christianpfc]

I just had a message from a bit in Siem Reap, asking for $50, as he had an accident. He attached pics, which looked pretty bad, and were him. That makes it difficult!

It's a question of how well I know someone and what we did. For most money boys, I pay and that's where my commitment ends. But a few money boys, and higher percentage of free with several encounters, I would send 100 USD to make sure they get all necessary treatment. But that (me sending money) has to be earned (not by sex, but by commitment and reliabiltiy) by the boy before it comes to the accident.

[christianpfc]

I recently had a run of four young men in a row in Bangkok finding reasons they had to leave early: 'have to go to hospital', 'friend needs room key', 'have to go work karaoke bar', 'brother says I have to go home with him'.

In my early year I fell once or twice, but now I wouldn't buy this.

I had boys who told me online while we were setting up a date "I don't have much time", in that case "never mind, let's meet another day when you have time". Those whose company I would like to enjoy longer than they were with me, next time I meet them I give a time frame I have in mind.

The key issue can be real, I had cases where a boy really had to leave because there were only n keys for n+x people in the household.

[latintopxxx]

" I had cases where a boy really had to leave because there were only n keys for n+x people in the household." nah you were scammed

[latintopxxx]

for me its 100% a cold business arrangement, i pay, you perform as agreed...dont even have to smile or pretend you are into me...just assume the position and let me enjoy your body

[Gaybutton]

He attached pics, which looked pretty bad, and were him. That makes it difficult!

It's not always a scam. Sometimes it is genuine. That's when you have to decide whether you feel that you are under any obligation. Many years ago, when I first came to live in Thailand, I had a Thai language teacher. I asked her how to handle such situations if you don't want to send money. She said think about what he would do if he had never met you.

One thing I've learned over the years - if you do help out a boy by sending money to him just once, the pleas for money keep coming.

My favorite quote came from Richard Burk, who used to own the now long gone Amor restaurant in Boyztown. I've posted it many times and this seems like a good place to post it again:

"If you want love in Thailand, rent it."

[latintopxxx]

oh dear gaybutton, you come across as cynical as me...maybe if i lived in Thailand I would have time to get to know locals and establish relationships & trust...but as a tourist who never stays more than 2 weeks my only objective is fresh butt every day...at least 2 a day...i dont wanna know their names or their life history or how many sick buffalos they have...in fact Id rather they not speak except to say "yes" to my every demand...my motto is ' fuck & go"....

[Oliver2]

I expect it's theirs, too.

[Gaybutton]

oh dear gaybutton, you come across as cynical as me.

You call it cynical. I call it realistic.

[latintopxxx]

omg....there u go again...kinda scary..