WTF in Jomtien Complex

[arsenal]

When a lonely and rapidly ageing farang tells you of his Asian 'boyfriend' he regularly sends money to he really means his long term off.

[francois]

First meatloaf and now Asian 'boyfriends'. Any other subjects you want to curtail Francois? These relationships are not partnerships of equals.

And on a personal level it does seem that having an Asian 'boyfriend' does make one more prone to tetchiness.

What is your problem, arsenal? Can you not understand English?

I am not trying to curtail anything (other than the way-off topic responses)
You are perfectly free to be a butterfly and enjoy sex wherever and whenever you wish as are all the members of this forum and post, and in your case, about your dining experiences.
But comments about someone being stupid for spending their money the way they want to spend it is truly insulting and stupid.
There are those who fly around the world seeking sexual thrills and posting about their adventures, are they not stupid?
Point is to stop judging over people by your own standards and start to accept people for what they are.
Is that asking too much?
As for having an Asian boyfriend or any boyfriend, is that a crime in your book? Or are you and others somehow envious?

As for tetchiness, I did have to look up that word; leave it to Shakespeare to coin it!

[scottish-guy]

What are you objecting to -- the age disparity or the frequency of the sexual encounters? Do you also disapprove if the farangs are in their mid-40's or mid-50's ? Would they also fail to qualify as "decent" ?

Also, "predatory" does not seem to be an appropriate word when discussing commercial sex .

What I'm pointing to (not objecting to) is the basic sluttiness inherent in the behaviour of hiring a different prostitute every night over a period of decades (behaviour which a psychiatrist would undoubtedly diagnose as hypersexual disorder).

Broadly speaking, the age of the wretch is immaterial - if he's habitually and regularly paying to fuck or be fucked by a different random stranger every night whose only interest in him is the 1500-2000B he's handing over, then no - it's far from "decent" by the definition of the word

I'm also suggesting that (for example) a mid-70's gay desperado who habitually and constantly behaves in such a slutty fashion (and boasts about it) is in no position to attempt to take the moral high ground and belittle others over the arrangements they choose to make with their long-term partners.

Finally, you may not regard spending much of every day seeking out and frequenting establishments which are thinly-disguised brothels, in search of a new prostitute for that day's revels as "predatory" but I rather suspect the general population would accept that definition quite readily.

Hope that clears it up!

[a447]

Also, "predatory" does not seem to be an appropriate word when discussing commercial sex .

If anything, it is the boys who are "predatory."

But as Bob pointed out, it's for commercial gain so the term "predatory" cannot be applied here.

The guys I have sex with offer themselves to me for that very purpose.

[a447]

But comments about someone being stupid for spending their money the way they want to spend it is truly insulting and stupid.

You've entirely missed the point.

The spending / sending of money or having a "boyfriend" is not what I described when I used the word "stupid."

I was referring to guys who think only with their dicks and are sweet-talked into believing anything the boy says.

Before entering into a relationship they believe to be genuine, they'd do better if they looked into the experiences of others before allowing themselves to be conned. It would save a lot of heartache and angst.

I've already said that how people spend their money after being conned is up to them.

[dinagam]

Who is the slut? The prostitute or the client, or both?
Going to the brothel is almost like going to the fruit stall - choose from the most delectable items and enjoy yourself.

[a447]

What I'm pointing to (not objecting to) is the basic sluttiness inherent in the behaviour of hiring a different prostitute every night over a period of decades (behaviour which a psychiatrist would undoubtedly diagnose as hypersexual disorder).

Broadly speaking, the age of the wretch is immaterial - if he's habitually and regularly paying to fuck or be fucked by a different random stranger every night whose only interest in him is the 1500-2000B he's handing over, then no - it's far from "decent" by the definition of the word

I'm also suggesting that (for example) a mid-70's gay desperado who habitually and constantly behaves in such a slutty fashion (and boasts about it) is in no position to attempt to take the moral high ground and belittle others over the arrangements they choose to make with their long-term partners.

Finally, you may not regard spending much of every day seeking out and frequenting establishments which are thinly-disguised brothels, in search of a new prostitute for that day's revels as "predatory" but I rather suspect the general population would accept that definition quite readily.

Hope that clears it up!

I don't see "sluttiness" as being anything to be ashamed of or even mentioned on a forum like this.

Men in general, and gays in particular, tend to be slutty by nature, whereas women are not. I'm sure it's got something to do with evolution. Make men perpetually horny so the species reproduces, but put a brake on it so that we don't over-populate.

Men, straight and gay, can be very promiscuous. An example are the saunas, which are strictly for men, not women, as their attitude to sex is different. The number of times we change partners just illustrates how slutty we are. But if you behave in a slutty way just once, then you've joined the group. Everything else is merely a matter of degree.

As for what others see as being decent, I couldn't care less. Just as they guys who I called "stupid" couldn't care less, either.

We are entitled to lead whatever lives we want, as long as we have mutual agreement as to what activities we propose to do, and noone gets hurt in the process.

[Brad the Impala]

But as Bob pointed out, it's for commercial gain so the term "predatory" cannot be applied here.

I don't see any exclusions for use of the word in the context of commercial gain in the definition and example given by the Cambridge English Dictionary.

used to describe someone who expresses sexual interest in a very obvious way:

I hate going to bars on my own because men look at you in such a predatory way.

[arsenal]

Please don't expect less easily taken in farangs to play the delusion game with an old man who claims his 30 years his junior bit on the side is his 'boyfriend'. When the money stops the 'love' goes too. A fool and his money are easily parted and there is no fool like an.old fool.

[a447]

I don't see any exclusions for use of the word in the context of commercial gain in the definition and example given by the Cambridge English Dictionary.

used to describe someone who expresses sexual interest in a very obvious way:

I hate going to bars on my own because men look at you in such a predatory way.

I see "predatory" as implying that no compensation is on offer. It's a one way street.

But don't forget, these guys offer themselves to us in the bars and we gladly accept.

Also, the term has only negative connotations. There is nothing that any of us here do that is in any way negative, AFAIK.

It takes two to tango.

So I certainly don't see myself as a sexual predator in any shape or form. I'm not pouncing on, or trying to seduce, any younger guy. There is no seduction involved. They boys are there waiting for us.

And I can assure you that if I saw the forum as one promoting sexual predators, I wouldn't be here.

Oh, and if you are going by the strict dictionary definition, most males in the world should be looked upon as sexual predators.

I don't think so!