Are you Homophobic?

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I abhor the notion that us queers should be aping hetero-normative behaviours by pressing for gay "marriage". Does that make me homophobic? I'm not interested in screwing trannies - I prefer my guys to be boys out of bed, girls in bed - but I don't run a mile when a katoey or a lady boy comes and talks to me either. I don't enquire too closely about anyone's sexuality because the one thing we know from Kinsey's research is that sexuality is a continuum not a binary outcome. The number of married men you see hanging around public lavatories is testament to that. So I'm not too fussed if some lad I've picked up turns out to have a woman and kids at home, but it's not a type I chase either

I was recently travelling through Isaan (see my thread on the topic) and met a mildly effeminate unmarried man living in a village. When I commented to one of my travelling companions about the lack of a boyfriend so what did he do for sex, the response was "many guys want to muck around" - another euphemism for you there, scottish-guy - a sentiment about gays in village life that I've heard before