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workhardplayhard
he went away for an hour with a motorcycle and i had no idea where he went. I was worried as i didnt know where i was but i was hanging out with a group of people. Then when he cameback i told him why did he leave like that for an hour and leaving me alone. He got extremely agressive and pushed me.
I've seen exactly this kind of behaviour around Chiang Mai before. Sounds like he went off to get high on Yaa Baa, then came back with a transformed personality. Sadly, its not that uncommon.
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Exactly what I was thinking Bon Tong - the whole story suggests drug use rather than booze alone.
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Surfcrest
When I drive, I make sure I'm not going over 100 km / hour, but when I'm driving somewhere I estimate the distance in miles. Maybe it's because the imperial system is etched in my upbringing, or maybe it's because imperial unit sizes make more sense to humans? Or...maybe we Canadians are just a quirky bunch...lol
Surfcrest
I imagine you will be of a "certain age" (younger than I, no question) but those Canadians at school before 1975 will certainly have the imperial unit etched in their minds since that is what they were brought up with. A 26 year old will have been brought up with the metric system. Quirkiness aside, as you point out it is 99.99% likely that you will always measure distances in one unit - whatever the distance. So being "15-20 kms from downtown" doesn't fit with another place being "360 miles away"! Or is there another quirky Canadian habit that hasn't yet been brought up?
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Originally Posted by
fountainhall
So even though you know not to raise your arm to a Thai and even being a martial arts exponent, you are still able to beat off 10 guys (really? 10 angry Thai guys?) out to attack you despite kicks, punches and bottles being thrown! Wow! Well done! You should go and be a stuntman in Hollywood or the famous Shaw Studios in Kuala Lumpur founded by the famous Run Me Shaw (the brother of Sir Run Run Shaw). You’d earn a vast amount more than living in Thailand. LOL
He’s been your boyfriend for 7 months and you are not aware that the fastest route to Doi Saket is actually 28 kms away. Quite a difference! But whilst on this point –
Now this I do find odd. How do you measure distance – in miles or kms? I know in Canada it is not uncommon to use kms for distance but also often mpg when filling the tank. But Canadians I know are always consistent – distance as on road signs are in kms. How come you you use both measurements for distance?
Curious. What did you teach at age 22 or 23? Because your written English is not good as you yourself have pointed out -
Very few very young farang here teach anything other than English.
Odd I have never seen Thais drink anything other than beer or whiskey. Obviously I do not look closely enough to see the other liquors.
I have not commented up to now because on another board I once called someone a troll who turned out not to be, and once on this forum held back from a similar call - but he then turned out to be a troll. One point about trolls, in my experience, is the massive amount of detail they throw into seemingly innocuous posts. Sglad was just the latest – and he was found out because despite the detail it was all fiction and he could not come up with facts when pressed. And you, workhardplayhard, certainly appear to live up to that standard!
As suggested earlier, give up! (the boyfriend, that is :yahoo_mini:)
The problem with people like you is you do not listen to try to understand, you listen to reply and try to start an argument when there is nothing to argue about. You seems like a person that want to sounds smart and try to prove a point for no reason. Let me try to explain to you and make it clearer so hopefully you understand.
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fountainhall
So even though you know not to raise your arm to a Thai and even being a martial arts exponent, you are still able to beat off 10 guys (really? 10 angry Thai guys?) out to attack you despite kicks, punches and bottles being thrown! Wow! Well done! You should go and be a stuntman in Hollywood or the famous Shaw Studios in Kuala Lumpur founded by the famous Run Me Shaw (the brother of Sir Run Run Shaw). You’d earn a vast amount more than living in Thailand. LOL
I thought it was pretty obvious that when i said that i would not raise my arm i was refering to my boyfriend and not his friends. It is common sense that one person (with or without fighting experience) cannot beat 10 people in a fight. I cannot believe that you would be that stupid to believe that i was pretending that i could of beat 10 persons so i guess ill just ignore what you said there because it would be a waste of time to elaborate further about that silly comment.
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He’s been your boyfriend for 7 months and you are not aware that the fastest route to Doi Saket is actually 28 kms away. Quite a difference! But whilst on this point –
You have no idea what you are talking about. The fastest way to Doi Saket is not 28km at all. 28km would be from a place like Doi Suthep to Doi Saket. Central Festival is actually 15km from Doi Saket. Your calculation of 28km is greatly exagerated and i shows me that you do not really know what you are talking about. 28km woulnt be the fastest way but actually the slowest.
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Now this I do find odd. How do you measure distance – in miles or kms? I know in Canada it is not uncommon to use kms for distance but also often mpg when filling the tank. But Canadians I know are always consistent – distance as on road signs are in kms. How come you you use both measurements for distance?
I went on www.google.com and i typed: Nakhon Pathom to Chiang Mai distance and got the result in miles so i copy/pasted it in miles (i admit i was too lazy to convert it in km). Yes canadians we do use kms. What is so odd about that?
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Curious. What did you teach at age 22 or 23? Because your written English is not good as you yourself have pointed out -
Very few very young farang here teach anything other than English.
There is plenty of places all over Thailand that teaches French, German, Spanish, etc. I think you havent been out in a while. Obviously, there is way more people that teach english than others languages. But to assume that <Very Few Very Young> farangs teach anything other than english is not correct and it is an assumption that you just made up. Try to take a visit at KKU, CMU, or any big universities all over the countrys or even in some high schools. You know we arent living in the 80s anymore, right? By the way, i was teaching french, not english.
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Odd I have never seen Thais drink anything other than beer or whiskey. Obviously I do not look closely enough to see the other liquors.
I have not commented up to now because on another board I once called someone a troll who turned out not to be, and once on this forum held back from a similar call - but he then turned out to be a troll. One point about trolls, in my experience, is the massive amount of detail they throw into seemingly innocuous posts. Sglad was just the latest – and he was found out because despite the detail it was all fiction and he could not come up with facts when pressed. And you, workhardplayhard, certainly appear to live up to that standard!
As suggested earlier, give up! (the boyfriend, that is)
Did i even suggested that they were drinking something others than beers or whiskey? I said that during that night they were drinking whisky but on other occasions me and my bf have been drinking only beer. Indeed you seems like someone that like to judge others without really knowing them. For whatever reasons you seems to have a big interest in trying to profile people and play the detective role. I highly suggest you to take some air outside.
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What an idiotic comment! I don't pay for sex, I am in no senses other than happy, I have friends in several parts of Asia and the rest of the world, I travel far more and far more often to far more exciting places than I am absolutely certain you do. I accept, though, I can sometimes be cynical. As for you, you are entitled to your opinions. But do not morph your own bitter and twisted views on to others! After all, didn't you write earlier -
LOL. So you tell him to not morph his own bitter and twisted views on others but this is exactly what you are doing to me. Do what i say not what i do is a quote that define you well.
Anyway i was looking for advices here, not to argue with someone that has nothing better to do in his life. And by the way, i already said i can post pictures of my bruises and i am even considering going to Pattaya next week so we can meet for a drink if that could validate the doubt you have! lol gtfo.
Thanks for everyone that have been helpful.
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I've said it before but no one listened- the story of my life- and so I'll say it again. No one should accuse another poster of being a troll on the basis of one post. The civilised way in which to handle the situation, if you suspect that a new poster is indeed a troll, is to ignore the post.
In this particular case, a guy, obviously distressed and much younger than most of us, has asked for advice. Even the most self-confident of troll-hunters must surely accept that there is a possibility that it is a genuine cry for help. One chance in ten would, in my estimation, be enough to take the post seriously.... or ignore it. Life is too short to get our knickers in a twist over whether a particular post is genuine or not.
Accordingly, myadvice- as many others have suggested- is to end the relationship.
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oh Lord...the Thai boyfriend must be a bloody good lay ...must fuck him so hard it loosens his tooth fillings if he is still contemplating hooking back up with him after his betrayal...
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Originally Posted by
Oliver
No one should accuse another poster of being a troll on the basis of one post.
I quite agree - but that is certainly not what I did? I waited for almost 40 posts before raising doubts here. Remember sglad? Several posters all but outed him within the first half dozen posts. But he was eventually fooled into outing himself. That thread by a new poster (a troll and hydra) was titled “Hey there!” and ran for more than 35 posts during which time he was defended by me(!). It was on another thread that I laid a trap and he was forced to out himself. As a result he was banned by Surfcrest! And ironically, the poster loke even went as far as to say this –
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loke
Another new poster scared away from miserable old queens.
- but that post was actually made was on March 11 - 20 full days after sglad had been banned!! sglad was permitted to roam the Board all that time becoming increasingly rude and unbelievable.
Now let’s look at workhinghard’s comments (odd how with every one he posts he becomes more and more like sglad or his alter ego sugargrandpa!)
Workhardplayhard: it is, I suggest, you who should look carefully at what you said before commenting on what others write.
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workhardplayhard
you listen to reply and try to start an argument
What utter nonsense - and you know it! My only other comment on this particular thread was this in Post #12 –
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. . . take the advice given by others here. Ditch him right now. Violence has a nasty habit of repeating itself. You don't need that in your life.
Initially I was on the side of others providing you with what I believed sensible advice. So who was starting an argument?? Certainly not me!
Now let's look at your fight about which you made so much in your first post. Now you say this -
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workhardplayhard
I thought it was pretty obvious that when i said that i would not raise my arm i was refering to my boyfriend and not his friends. It is common sense that one person (with or without fighting experience) cannot beat 10 people in a fight. I cannot believe that you would be that stupid to believe that i was pretending that i could of beat 10 persons so i guess ill just ignore what you said there because it would be a waste of time to elaborate further about that silly comment
Ah, but I did not make up the fight nor the 10 guys. Let's remind ourselves what in fact you did say –
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workhardplayhard
He got extremely agressive and pushed me. I did not reacted the way i should of ill admit it because i pushed him back and i told him to calm down. Then all break lose: his friend tried to throw a bottle on top of my head but i dodged it. Then his friend rushed me but having experience in Muai Thai and boxing i kind of brushed him off quite easily and threw him down. After that all his friends jumped me (at least 10 people) and throwed bottles on me and were kicking me.
I wasnt badly injured or anything as i was protected myself well (especially my head). But then i saw something that really hurted me inside. All that time i thought my boyfriend would tell them to stop and protect me but instead he was shouting for them to beat me up. They beat me up for around 5 minutes but then some people that i had chatted with and had good times with helped me and told them to stop.
So what was it workhardplayhard? Were there in fact 10 people (or perhaps there were more because you say "at least") who beat you up for all of 5 minutes (really? 5 minutes - that's a helluva long time) but AMAZINGLY you weren’t even injured and protected yourself well – as YOU SAID in Post #1 – or there weren’t in fact 10 people and you didn’t beat them? You claim this is a "silly comment". But using your own words, the “silly” comments are only yours!
So what about the distance between Chiang Mai and Doi Saket, You say this -
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workhardplayhard
You have no idea what you are talking about. The fastest way to Doi Saket is not 28km at all. 28km would be from a place like Doi Suthep to Doi Saket.
But note you also say later -
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workhardplayhard
Well, guess what. I beat you to it and found out from google the actual shortest distance between Chiang Mai and Doi Saket. And guess what google comes up with?
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41 min (27.9 km) via Route 121 and Route 1014
40 min (32.5 km) via ถนน สมโภชเชียงใหม่ 700 ปี and Route 118
54 min (34.6 km) via Route 11 and Route 118
So who does not know what he is talking about? I notice you just slipped in to your last post "Central Festival". But that is far from "downtown" Chiang Mai as you earlier stated and it is far closer to Doi Saket! How about your claim that this would be the distance between Doi Suthep and Doi Sakhet. Want to know the google distance for that trip? 34.7 kms. So, once again, who has been talking bullshit?
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workhardplayhard
Anyway i was looking for advices here, not to argue with someone that has nothing better to do in his life
So now you trot out the tedious old refrain used by everyone who leads a boring existence. I have said on other threads that I lead an exciting and extremely enjoyable life. I’ll take you on any time so that other posters can make up their own minds.
As for all the other inaccuracies in your post, however, I’m not going to waste my time. Just be careful when you write because there is clearly a danger you'll fall over your own feet!
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" I lead an exciting and extremely enjoyable life"(Quote: fountainhall)....I see....Thats why you posted the above time consuming anal retentive disection above, Lol
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Manforallseasons
" I lead an exciting and extremely enjoyable life"(Quote: fountainhall)....I see....Thats why you posted the above time consuming anal retentive disection above, Lol
A typically stupid and childish remark from a poster whose boring one-liners are legendary (except on gaybuttonthai where he has no choice but to be positive)! :yahoo_mini: :yahoo_mini:
And let's remember you're another of the get a life brigade -
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Manforallseasons
tell you to get a life
What a joke!
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after many years on this board and reading many post and posting only a few myself, i 100% think and convinced fountainhall must be the arse hole of the year.
You want to get yourself a life and go out a bit more. Or are you that old your housebound
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paperboy
You want to get yourself a life
Another of those incredibly boring old posters whose only contribution is the incredibly boring suggestion that others get a life. I'm just so glad my life is nothing like the lives of these old retired posters who make such pathetically childish comments! Interesting that all of 16 other members actually like your posts, paperboy! OMG! Just 16? Great contributions you make, obviously!! And be careful. MFAS is beating you to the 100 mark!
Time for a rethink, maybe?
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555 this one quickly went the way of the dodo :D
Continue, highly amusing.
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justaguy
That to me implies people (at the very least you) seem to believe that novice posters have a greater chance to be a troll. Has it ever occured that people might sign up and then post stories such as this ?
In other threads it was mentioned that precious few newbie posters appear, with such an attitude towards newbie posters, I find that not really a big surprise.
The reason I say this is simple. I was formerly thought of as a troll when I first started posting on these forums. It just happened thst early into my visit to LOS I got robbed yada yada yada. This'd be one of the reasons that I don't jump to conclusions myself but I do understand when others take a step back. Generally speaking, most newbies do begin with...."great to get such a wealth of info"......where's best for this, what do I pay for that etc.
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paperboy
after many years on this board and reading many post and posting only a few myself, i 100% think and convinced fountainhall must be the arse hole of the year.
You want to get yourself a life and go out a bit more. Or are you that old your housebound
Just proves my point
6 minutes later he respònds
:D
you need to switch off
and get out of your sad bubble
fountainhall, there is a world outside your computer hahahahahahahhahahah
ps YOUR STILL AN ARSE HOLE:clapping:
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paperboy
You want to get yourself a life and go out a bit more. Or are you that old your housebound
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paperboy
Just proves my point
you need to switch off
and get out of your sad bubble
fountainhall, there is a world outside your computer hahahahahahahhahahah
You clearly are like poor Matt - blind! And you clearly don't read many of the posts here. Unlike you, I run a region-wide business based in Hong Kong and have just come back from a 10-day business trip to Singapore and Kuala Lumpur. And with close to 8 million kms travelled during my career, it really does seem to me that you are the one who should get out of your little cocoon and learn a bit more about the big wide world. Know something? It really is very exciting - far more so than the one I expect you experience made up mostly of booze, bars, boys and a couple of weeks holiday a year. Yeah, life's great!
And incidentally, since you last bothered to look around you, smartphones and iPads were invented :D
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Steve1903
Generally speaking, most newbies do begin with...."great to get such a wealth of info"......where's best for this, what do I pay for that etc.
I fully understand your point - and if you look back over this Board and gaythailand where I posted for about 8 years, I have frequently posted about the need to attract new posters and equally to give them a bit of space.
I waited 6 months after discovering gaythailand before starting post. Actually I don't agree that most posts start with general questions. It's often about general observations in threads already underway. But certainly many are indeed questions. But I think you may agree that these do tend to be quite simple. Rarely do first posters without experience of posting and the cut and thrust of posting give long and relatively complicated narratives as in the OP in this thread. They will, in my experience, be far shorter and sum up a situation in more general terms. Again, though, that is not to say it does not happen.
In the case of this thread, as I said earlier, in my first response I backed up the advice given almost all the other posters - give up the boyfriend. However, when a poster is then questioned (not by me - by 2 other posters in this case) and starts to amplify an event by adding in a lot of detail that does not gel with the original, something is wrong. And it is how the poster then responds that gives a clue - just a clue - about possible status as being genuine or a troll.
I brought up the case of sglad. Initially I was on his side and defended him. Then something about the Chinese he wrote was so clearly untrue, the more so from someone purporting to be Chinese. I started to take greater note. Eventually as the untruths were wrapped in increasingly snide remarks, privately I alerted the owners. No action was taken. Fine. They own the Board. So even later I took it on myself to lay a trap. And sglad and his hydra companion sugargrandpa stepped right into it. Result? Banned!
I have no idea if the OP here is a troll or not (although others seem to). But he certainly makes a large number of errors in his narratives.
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The debate/witch-hunt over whether or not the OP is genuine comes quite far down the list of things about which I give a toss.
However it has drawn attention away from those who-the-fuck-cares posts on the Tarntawan Hotel, so to that extent I guess it has some merit.
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Sweetlover88 joined this forum February 18, 2013 and hasn't been active with us since February 5, 2016. They are indeed one and the same poster. I would be more than happy to combine the two memberships or assist wokhardplayhard reconnect to his former membership or make this the new and only one.
Please members, so others can feel welcome here when they join or stop by again...leave the detective work up to me.
Surfcrest
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Scottish wrote:
"However it has drawn attention away from those who-the-fuck-cares posts on the Tarntawan Hotel, so to that extent I guess it has some merit."
And yet no one mentions said hotel more than you. No opportunity is lost to shoehorn this establishment into any and every thread. Mmmmm. A part owner perhaps?
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Damn! You're good!
I bought into the Tarntawan shortly after selling up the car bumper sticker empire the Fat Cunt found out I owned.
Can't keep anything secret in here
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What was the name of that hotel, again? :devilsh:
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Ask Scottish. He can probably send you the brochure and tell you about the app that pings every time a room becomes available.
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Surfcrest
leave the detective work up to me.
Surfcrest
I perfectly agree - but have to add the proviso that obvious faults are actually picked up. I think Moses has done and continues to do a fantastic job. He readily admits, though, that English is not his native language and cannot pick up some of what is written or the subtleties behind it. That is totally understandable. So that leaves just one moderator.
Since you have raised the issue, I regret I have to bring up the matter of sglad where his troll-like status was very quickly raised by several posters (not by me, though - I kept my suspicions to myself). Later, when he began to make obvious errors and started throwing out insults to other posters, I wrote to you and Moses to the effect that I believed he had to be a troll - that there was no possibility of his being a young Singaporean student studying in Chiang Mai, and I provided specific reasoning based on my having lived in a Chinese society for two decades. That sms was sent on February 5. Moses kindly replied. Without betraying a confidence, that was merely re technical issues. So the sglad hydra was permitted to continue posting for a further 14 days, spreading more and more lies and unsubtle vitriol until I set the trap which outed him and his hydra partner sugar daddy. You then finally banned him.
With the greatest respect, detective work on content did pick up his troll/hydra status but moderation waited a further two weeks before taking any action. Had I not set the trap, I'm pretty certain that sugardaddy would have stayed out of the picture and, for all we know, sglad might still be posting here. So there is definitely an issue - and perhaps even a conflict – between posters who are identifiable by technical means and those by content, posters who simply lie and then build on that lie to target other posters.
I believe every poster here should have the right to identify inconsistencies in posting, the more so when an original poster goes on to use vitriol when attempting to give answers which themselves only add fuel to the inconsistencies. An analysis of posts should surely be part and parcel of the job of moderation - as it was recently on gaythailand and is all the time on the other Board.
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Yea Founty. Please try and keep your replies to 2000 words or less. Many thanks. And please stop talking about Sglad/Sugagrandpa as if you hunted down a serial killer in Old Chinatown.
Surfcrest. Detective work is fun so while it's understandable you wanting to keep it all for yourself it's equally so that everyone likes to play. As Churchill (I think) called the intel business.
"The wall of mirrors."
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1,999 maximum it is, arsenal! And did you mention someone named sglad?
Churchill made some very interesting remarks. "A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on," is particularly apt in the light of this discussion. "Nothing in life is so exhilarating as to be shot at without result," also comes to mind!
I see MFAS is being his usual boring self!
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I seriously doubt that Churchill would have referred to "pants" - which still generally means underwear in the UK and in his era would have almost exclusively meant that.
I prefer the alternative attributation i.e. to Mark Twain - although even he did not say "pants" but rather "shoes"
Also worth mentioning that Churchill rarely got *his* pants on before late afternoon and at least a bottle of champagne
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He got assaulted by his thai boyfriend friends and now he is assaulted by some members of this forum .the poor guy only wanted a simple advise what to do in this misfortune incident and being accused as troll, fake, liar act. ...OMG...
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The cause of disbelief is that he was asking for advice. Any rational person who was the object of such an incredibly outrageous attack by his bf and friends, would know that the only option would be to cut all ties and move on. No need to solicit the advice of people in a forum.
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If he's done it once it will more than likely happen again. I couldn't trust anyone like that. Don't even speak to him about it just leave mate.
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To be fair, the guy seems isolated. My impression is that he was seeking support and sympathy and already knew what he must do. Perhaps he was unaware that other gay forums may well have provided a more receptive platform. Let's be honest, this one can be a little....how can I put this politely.....aggressive?
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bobsaigon2
The cause of disbelief is that he was asking for advice. Any rational person who was the object of such an incredibly outrageous attack by his bf and friends, would know that the only option would be to cut all ties and move on. No need to solicit the advice of people in a forum.
That's correct indeed but I think he loves him and it was difficult for him to cut the relationship immediately.
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I fully agree that love can often be confusing and those in love can indeed be blind to what others see as the obvious. However,
1. if you really believe your boyfriend/lover truly loves you, and
2. you get into what seems to have been a serious a fight with "10 or more" of his friends during which you are punched, beaten and bottles may have been thrown for 5 minutes, and
3. during all this pugilism he is doing nothing to ensure no harm comes to you but he is actually egging on his friends and also shouting at you and punching you as stated in the OP,
it doesn't matter to me if he was stone cold sober, very drunk or high on some form of drugs, the only sensible action is to drop him - immediately. I cannot see how such a major rift could ever be repaired. And as others have stated, if it happens once, it can happen again . . . and again . . . and . . . Life is too short.
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Let's be honest, this one can be a little....how can I put this politely.....aggressive?
Whilst not disagreeing with you, I wonder if you have read gaythailand recently. It has had quite a few on-going ding-dongs recently with a lot more posters banned than in this gentleman's forum!
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Oh yes, Love. I forgot to consider that as a mitigating factor in the OP's indecisiveness. It's been so long. Forgot the last time I was in love.
Oliver provided one reason for the contents of the OP: "To be fair, the guy seems isolated. My impression is that he was seeking support and sympathy and already knew what he must do."
And I found this to be a somewhat fitting description of more than one board member.
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fountainhall
Since you have raised the issue, I regret I have to bring up the matter of sglad where his troll-like status was very quickly raised by several posters (not by me, though - I kept my suspicions to myself). Later, when he began to make obvious errors and started throwing out insults to other posters, I wrote to you and Moses to the effect that I believed he had to be a troll - that there was no possibility of his being a young Singaporean student studying in Chiang Mai, and I provided specific reasoning based on my having lived in a Chinese society for two decades. That sms was sent on February 5. Moses kindly replied. Without betraying a confidence, that was merely re technical issues. So the sglad hydra was permitted to continue posting for a further 14 days, spreading more and more lies and unsubtle vitriol until I set the trap which outed him and his hydra partner sugar daddy. You then finally banned him.
With the greatest respect, detective work on content did pick up his troll/hydra status but moderation waited a further two weeks before taking any action. Had I not set the trap, I'm pretty certain that sugardaddy would have stayed out of the picture and, for all we know, sglad might still be posting here. So there is definitely an issue - and perhaps even a conflict – between posters who are identifiable by technical means and those by content, posters who simply lie and then build on that lie to target other posters.
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The sglad / sugargrandpa case was quite different. For all I know, they may have been two separate and legit members. Something was flagged to my attention with respect to their posting activity and rather than doing a complete investigation into what it was, I thought it best to sever the ties rather than to comb through it. There just was too much to go through and too much happening that seemed off, with respect to each of their posts. I figured that if either was legit, they'd come back...which it appears, neither has.
While I do get PM's from time to time about this member or that, from that member or this...I generally don't use that as a guideline. There are more technical means that are completely unbiased to what I or anyone else, might suspect.
Surfcrest
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While I do get PM's from time to time about this member or that, from that member or this...I generally don't use that as a guideline. There are more technical means that are completely unbiased to what I or anyone else, might suspect.
Surfcrest
That I perfectly understand. But if content is not considered and a poster is not in fact a hydra but merely a troll trying to cause some form of havoc, can technical means alone root him out - despite alerts from members? I am merely curious - because I do think it is an important issue. A group of posters was recently banned on gaythailand. From what I gather (and I may be wrong), it seems it was what the filth they wrote that triggered the bans and not a technical issue.
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Oh yes, Love. I forgot to consider that as a mitigating factor in the OP's indecisiveness. It's been so long. Forgot the last time I was in love
I believe anyone can find love (although I'm not so sure that actually works in the UK after a certain age - can't speak about other western countries). Of course for many guys occasional or regular sex is fine. But surely with so many Asian guys looking for much older westerners it's possible where you live?
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I also forget the last time I wanted to be in love. Life (for me) is so much more care free as a free agent.
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That I perfectly understand. But if content is not considered and a poster is not in fact a hydra but merely a troll trying to cause some form of havoc, can technical means alone root him out - despite alerts from members? I am merely curious - because I do think it is an important issue. A group of posters was recently banned on gaythailand. From what I gather (and I may be wrong), it seems it was what the filth they wrote that triggered the bans and not a technical issue.
Oh come on. The last thing this forum needs is another Soapbox Sally!